We spend more time in listening than we spend speaking , reading or writing in schools and colleges. Then we can improve our general skills by improving our listening skill. Any one can become a good listener by practicing a few techniques .
Some of them are below.
1 > IGNORE DISTURBANCES
Too often , external or internal disturbances take us away from the speaker’s message. We must therefore work hard at becoming active listeners. We should focus on the message. Listening is an excellent way to learn.
2 > MAKE USE OF LAG TIME
We should use lag time well . Lag time means the difference between speaking speed and listening speed. Most of us speak 82 to 160 words a minute . But we can listen at least four times faster. Often , we begin to miss the speaker’s point We should use lag time carefully.
3 > AVOID ANTICIPATION
Some times we do too much anticipating .
This practice is called ” Jumping to Conclusions ” . We think we know what the speaker is going to say. Then we stop listening .
We should allow the speaker time to make the point.
4 > BE OPEN -MINDED
We all have biases . While listening , we may be misled by there biases . We should suppress there biases . We should give the speaker a chance to make to make the point . We may learn a new thing that may remove a bias.
5 > HAVE EMPATHY
We should try to be a good listener . We should visualize matters from the speaker’s point of view .Some peoples have a difficult time expressing their feelings about a matter . We should be courteous to them.
6 > DON’T PLAY JUDGE
Some times we judge the speaker how he looks , talks or delivers. We should concentrate on the message not on the speaker’s dress , sex , or mannerisms.
:-P . I have this problem in listening.
7 > LISTEN TO ALL MESSAGE
Some times we have to hear message that are difficult to understand . If we are poor listeners , we would stop listening . In such a situation , we should rely on the skills required for critical listening.
8 > DON’T AFTER THE MESSAGE
At times , we distort the speaker’s message. We twist it to our needs and beliefs. We do not have to agree with the message , but we should listen.
9 > TAKE NOTES
We should take brief notes.
We should get main points and write them down. We should focus on facts and ideas .
If we try to take down everything , we shall miss most of the message
10 > PRACTICE LISTENING
Most of us do not pay attention to listening skills . We should attend lectures or presentations that require attentive listening . We shall find that ” Practice Makes Perfect ” with listening .
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